Leaving a violent relationship is never easy. Fear, financial concerns, the well-being of children or animals, and lack of resources can make it feel overwhelming. Yet violence can happen to anyone— regardless of gender identity, sexuality, or background.  

Research shows that intimate partner violence affects people across all communities: Over 1 in 3 women (35.6%) and 1 in 4 men (28.5%) in the US have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime. (National Domestic Violence Hotline) For transgender and non-binary people, the risk is even higher, with surveys showing that more than half report experiencing intimate partner violence at some point. (Human Rights Campaign) 

The Effects of Violence  

Staying in a violent relationship can take a serious toll on health and well-being. The Office of Disease Prevention and Health Promotion notes that intimate partner violence can lead to: 

• Physical harm such as bruises, cuts, scars, or sexually transmitted infections (STIs). 

• Emotional and mental harm including isolation, depression, low self-esteem, sleep problems, substance use disorder, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). 

• Escalation of danger—violence often worsens over time and may become life-threatening. 

• Disruptions to daily life—work, friendships, and family relationships can all suffer. Violence may also put people around you at risk. 

Recognizing the Signs 

Abuse doesn’t always start right away and can be hard to identify at first. Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship, as highlighted by the One Love Foundation, include: 

• Controlling behaviors, such as deciding who you can see or making all the decisions. 

• Disrespect, belittling, or repeated put-downs. 

• Promises to change that are never kept. 

• Any form of abuse—physical (pushing, hitting, throwing objects), verbal (insults, threats), or behavior that leaves you feeling unsafe or uncomfortable. 

It’s important to recognize that abuse is happening so you can take steps to get help. Disagreements are normal in any relationship, but in a healthy relationship they are resolved through communication and respect—not through control or violence. Healthy relationships are built on trust, equality, and mutual responsibility. 

PCH Is Here for You 

If you are in a violent relationship—or think you might be—help is available. Pillars Community Health offers safety and support through our confidential domestic violence shelter, Constance Morris House, for survivors and their children. 

• Confidential hotlines: Domestic Violence (708-485-5254) | Sexual Assault (708-482-9600) — available 24/7. 

• Trauma-informed therapy: Our trained therapists listen without judgment and guide you toward healing. 

• Resources online: Visit pillarscommunityhealth.org/services/domestic-and-sexual-violence-services for a full list of services. Our website includes a quick-exit button if you’re concerned about someone monitoring your activity. 

Healing is possible. You are not alone—and support is here when you’re ready. 

How You Can Help 

If you know someone who may be experiencing abuse, share our hotline numbers or encourage them to reach out. Simply letting them know they are not alone can make a difference.